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I hear a lot of ppl always complaining that they are bored, tired, sick of life and all sorts of conversation like that ...
Is that that our lives are so hectic and fast now that we totally lose all sense of direction and goals in our lives ?
Some ppl just repeat the same old procedure for their lives like :
Eg, Waking up, wash up, breakfast, work, lunch, work, off from work, go home, dinner, relaz a while, sleep ...
Then the whole thing repeats itself. This kinda of working life kenna sucks in that sense ... 
What are ur thots ppl ? 
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what to do? dun keep up with the rat race, cannot feed the family leh 
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Everybody (unless u r born with a silver spoon in your mouth!) lives this kind of life.
Whether it sucks or not is just a mattar of perspective..
i admit there are times when i wake up and i dread going to work. There are times when i start to wonder if this is going to be how i spend the rest of my life.
It is hence important to set your goals and priorities in life.
It may be a simple thing:
- to earn that first million
- to start a family with three kids
- to save up enough for your round-the world trip when u retire
Or just to be improve yourself and be a better person.
Life is short, live it and pursue your dreams. If you r risk-averse and wants to stay put, maybe u'll want to start changing your perspective and look for reasons why your present life is not so bad after all. At least u have a job, bring home the bacon and u have frens and family. Think of the less fortunate pple who r living from hand to mouth, who worry bout the next downturn, next paycheck or .. even the next meal.
Dont just live for retirement. Life is not about the end, but rather the journey, how u live it and whether u have lived up to it, all depends on you..
Start living your life ..Now.
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The living standards in SG is so high that it makes everyone wants to succeed ... but then again, who doesn't want to succeed in life.
There are always so many office politicals which I saw around when I was doing work during holidays.
U see ppl backstabbing their friends to rise to the top, etc etc.
Kinda gives me the impression of a cruel working society out there ...
Some things can't be helped I guess, just hope that once I really enter the work force, I will not meet up with such things often.
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My general aim in life: To be contented with what you have and make the most of it. Most importantly, to be happy. 
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Live Life! to the fullest when u can. As none of us can do without $$, that's why we're in for the rat race.
For me, I recognise my hobbies & interest in life, hence I set aside a lot of my time outside working hours to pursue these interests & unwind myself. In this way, my life is not just working an nothing else, it'll help me to recharge & move ahead each day. 
Whilst i sound very optimistic here, it's not that i do not have any problems at work. I consider myself working in a stressful environment with lots of politics to deal with. There are times when i m real down & i m still learning how to leave all these bad things in the office instead of bringing them home with me. So, perserverance is very important. Be positive! 
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I have my son to thank for being my stress reliever. No matter how down I feel at work, when I reach home, one look at his adorable face is enough to melt away the sorrows. 
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Backstabbing is everywhere. In the workplace, its survival of the fittest. No one likes it and most probably don't like such stuff but end up still doing it cause thats the only way they can survive.
As for a typical Singaporean's lifestyle i dare say its extremely unhealthy. The government cannot expect creativity from its pple if the society moves at such a pace where no one can slow down to even think. Most people would probably want a break and such but can they afford to do so when all others are being so kiasu as we put it? You chiong i also have to chiong to keep up if not how is the person going to survive. Rat races like this at the end gives u no true satisfaction of ur life. In other countries, the pace of life is slower and like what some others say, u can stop to smell the roses. In Singapore, the roses are more likely to be trampled upon by a stampede of kiasu Singaporeans rushing.
If u want to live just a relatively good and considered comfortable life, Singapore is a indeed the best place but if u are trying to pursue ur dreams and such, its probably better to seek elsewhere.
Yes of course everyone wants to succeed. But there are various definitions of success too. What sort of true success can u achieve here in Singapore with the lifestyle we have? Can u look back when u're old and say that the things u've achieved wasnt at the expense of happiness and such?
Singapore is actually slowing down and not keeping up if u actually look at various areas. Singapore compensates creativity with hardwork and such but as other countries increases their workrate Singapore however is not increasing on its thinking factor. Not to mention most Singaporeans dont dare to take risks. Nothing ventured nothing gain. We dont dare to try and i cant say i blame anyone becos in our society, can u afford to do so. No of course.
For me i rather quit a job and either start a new venture or look for a new job and such than to stay in the security of a current job. But of course thats becos im not married and such where the family relies on u. haiz. the life of a Singaporean...
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I don't feel a need to be successful, in terms of wealth. I'm happy enough with $2K per month, and that's essentially what most of us needs. I don't have handphones, latest CD player, flashy clothes, fads and what have you. I have no intention of getting a car (and I think it's one of the stupidest decision someone can make in Singapore, unless they need the vehicle to conduct business) or private housing or credit cards or country clubs memberships. We don't NEED them.
I'm happy enough to spend my time with my wife and my family. May it be conversations, outings or just be with each other.
Everybody has their own priorities in life. A lot of people wants to change how they live, but don't have the courage to do so. In the end I would say that when you are old, you are likely to regret the things you didn't do then the things you did.
If you are sick of life in Singapore, go take a break. Take up a working/holiday permit (for a year or two) in either Australia or England, and work there as waiters, teachers or whatever. Take your free time to travel around, at your own pace and leisure, and explore another country and custom.
Plan and inject excitement into your life. For example, I chose to take up a job with a company that will post me to HK in three months time. After that I plan to emigrate to Vancouver to start a family in three years time. After that, who knows? May move around Canada, get to know each place, etc. Most important thing is that I don't wake up thinking that shit, I'm going to be doing this for the rest of my life. With those plans, I have something to look forward to, to keep myself living and surviving.
Ultimately each one of us decides our own path to take. You choose whether to be happy and excited about life, or depressed and bored about the whole idea of living.
Cheers.
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Originally posted by Lonewolf:
I don't feel a need to be successful, in terms of wealth. I'm happy enough with $2K per month, and that's essentially what most of us needs. I don't have handphones, latest CD player, flashy clothes, fads and what have you. I have no intention of getting a car (and I think it's one of the stupidest decision someone can make in Singapore, unless they need the vehicle to conduct business) or private housing or credit cards or country clubs memberships. We don't NEED them.
I'm happy enough to spend my time with my wife and my family. May it be conversations, outings or just be with each other.
Everybody has their own priorities in life. A lot of people wants to change how they live, but don't have the courage to do so. In the end I would say that when you are old, you are likely to regret the things you didn't do then the things you did.
If you are sick of life in Singapore, go take a break. Take up a working/holiday permit (for a year or two) in either Australia or England, and work there as waiters, teachers or whatever. Take your free time to travel around, at your own pace and leisure, and explore another country and custom.
Plan and inject excitement into your life. For example, I chose to take up a job with a company that will post me to HK in three months time. After that I plan to emigrate to Vancouver to start a family in three years time. After that, who knows? May move around Canada, get to know each place, etc. Most important thing is that I don't wake up thinking that shit, I'm going to be doing this for the rest of my life. With those plans, I have something to look forward to, to keep myself living and surviving.
Ultimately each one of us decides our own path to take. You choose whether to be happy and excited about life, or depressed and bored about the whole idea of living.
Cheers.
this is a good one !
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Originally posted by Miffy:
Live Life! to the fullest when u can. As none of us can do without $$, that's why we're in for the rat race.
For me, I recognise my hobbies & interest in life, hence I set aside a lot of my time outside working hours to pursue these interests & unwind myself. In this way, my life is not just working an nothing else, it'll help me to recharge & move ahead each day.
Whilst i sound very optimistic here, it's not that i do not have any problems at work. I consider myself working in a stressful environment with lots of politics to deal with. There are times when i m real down & i m still learning how to leave all these bad things in the office instead of bringing them home with me. So, perserverance is very important. Be positive!
yeap ,i agree with miffy that staying positively is the way to move on for a healthy life .
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Originally posted by Miffy:
Live Life! to the fullest when u can. As none of us can do without $$, that's why we're in for the rat race.
The trouble with the rat race is that even if you win, you're still a rat. --- Lily Tomlin
I don't know who Lily is or was, but what she says is so true.
You are very right. None of us can do without money, because we need it to buy the basic things we need in life. However, for each of us, I think that there is a certain amount which will be enough for us to fulfill our needs of food and shelter.
Some of us earn $2K, and we're happy with it because we don't see a need to spend extra money on things we don't need; we're not influenced by ads, friends, society on what we should buy so that we'll be judged as someone who's in, who got status, etc. Then there are some of us who earns $5K a month, and yet groaning that they don't have much money left at the end of the month or that they need more money to buy something which they don't need at all, eg cars, or the latest handphone model.
Since in the end we're still just rats, why not be a happy and contented rat then a stressed out and unhappy rat?
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Lonewolf is right! We don't really need to earn a lot. Yes, singapore is an expensive place, but the basics are within most people's reach.
Somehow we're psyched to think we need to earn as much as possible. It's almost a cliche to say we're in this rat race because we haven't got a choice.
Just look at those people who earn more. What do they do with the money? Maybe buy a car, spend on more expensive audios, get a club, upgrade the house, eat more often at expensive restaurants, travel more frequently. Generally, the more you earn, the more you spend. And they're not necessities.
With $2k, you can have a flat, take annual vacations, have all the basic necessities like electrical appliances and furniture and eat in restaurants once in a while. And as long as you're happy, this is good life.
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Well first of all, we are here to learn things in life. Life is mundane but only the those with open eyes can see the lessons behind everyday experiences. Yea Life isn't about material things...
Health and Harmony are most important..so it depends on what your aim in life is...then just work around it..looking from a bird's eye point of view, its actually just a turn with your little finger..
that's all there is to Life, basically..
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guess i'm a tad bit behind every one here.. heh heh. i'll try to catch up.. <i'm a slow rat>  Anywayway..
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Sigma I hear a lot of ppl always complaining
i think that its a just part and parcel that people complain, its a form of relieving stress but the thing is after they complain, do these people actually say "ok i know what to do and i'm going do something abt my problems" Some people do, some people dont, the people who do probably won't be the ones moaning abt the same problems, the next day, the day after etc...
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]Sigma Some ppl just repeat the same old procedure
Sometimes its a fear of change that people are wary of, its like "hey i'm doing fine here with my 1.5k job why jeopardize my stable life kinda thingy" because they've grown so accustomed to it... which i why i would rather not stay put at the same job for a few years, it'll probably take the zest outa me..
it does suck and not too... kinda contradicting ? yes. but then its a circle of life that we have to go through to obtain our goals in life ! esp for us who lao peh lao bu no $$
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]Lionhear It is hence important to set your goals and priorities in life.......Life is not about the end, but rather the journey, how u live it and whether u have lived up to it, all depends on you..
i agree with you ... couldn't have put it better myself..
for me, i'll wanna live my life the way i want... knowing that i've made decisions myself along the way, knowing that it might or might not be the right one, but knowing i've tried that path makes me -smile- and i know i won't regret it say 20years down the road when i'm reminiscing abt the past...
what i like abt making decisions on my own, i can't and won't blame others for my mistakes, plus its through trials and tribulations that make a better person out me..
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Sigma The living standards in SG is so high
Don't agree on that. Singapore standard of living not high.. its the bloody cost of living... standard actually not as high as countries such as Hongkong ans Japan.
Its the inflation rate that keeps going up every year which sees us paying 3-5 dollars for a lousy plate of chicken rice.
but i think the government should probably not always introduce new tariffs etc when the economy is good and when its bad still put it in place.. in that event, we always got more and more taxes.. they won't get less.. and the hence the inflation gets higher and higher...
=P Its the cost, not the standard.
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Datz life! We have to live with it. Everyonez born to be able to cope wif their own life. Future lies in your own hands!
Its true that working life is juz waking up in the wee morning and going to work, facing the stressed faces of colleagues and listening to the nagging of bosses and ending up wif a pile of never-ending workload. After that, itz back to home again, rest n sleep and prepare for a brand new boring day once again. Gee..datz life! What to do? Nothingz free in this world! Gonna slog hard each day. For wat? To support family and saving enuf $ for the rest of your life.
Always wondered how some ppl who neve chiong and juz live their life by shuttling between their homes and work strictly. Don't you find something lacking in your life? Get a life! Learn to socialise more. You'll find life darn boring if u don't find any excitement, yeah.
Well...I haven not really stepped into the working world yet. I had my attachment last year and it was pretty boring. However, things go real smoothly and times passes if you enjoy ur work and build rapport wif your collesgues. Itz not that bad afterall.
Gee..guess I'l be entering into the "real world" real soon.. After I find a job. And my aim? Juz to save up some $ and go to U. After graduating again? Then I will spend the rest of my life slogging real hard. As the saying goes.. Ai pia jia yia. hehe. I will juz work and of course i must like doing wat i am going to pursue. And hopefully in between, I have the spare time to go socialising or taking leave to stay away from work. Datz life. No matter you like it or not, u'll have to live with it. Well..who knows? One day you might juz be the lucky winner of a grand TOTO or 4D and walk away wif sufficient $ to last you for a livetime? Then you dun have to work! Happy rite? However, u'll find life pretty boring w/o having to work. Well.. whoz satisfied with what they've got anyway? We always complain this n that.... sigh..
(wat the crap am i toking??? froze~~~)
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Originally posted by Lonewolf:
The trouble with the rat race is that even if you win, you're still a rat. --- Lily Tomlin
Since in the end we're still just rats, why not be a happy and contented rat then a stressed out and unhappy rat?
well said! Sometimes money is motivation, people at the top r generally happy rats who bring big $$ home, worker rats like us will bring $2k home. Being stressed out is unavoidable esp when those people up there makes lousy leaders.
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A bit the long, but worth reading.
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A time comes in your life when you finally get it...
when in the midst of all your fears and insanity you
stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice
inside your head cries out: ENOUGH! Enough fighting
and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child
quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin
to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back
your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you
begin to look at the world through new eyes. This is
your awakening. You realise that it's time to stop
hoping and waiting for something to change or for
happiness, safety and security to come galloping over
the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that
he is not Prince Charming and you are not Cinderella
and that in the real world there aren't always
fairy-tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and
that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin
with you and in the process a sense of serenity is
born of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and
that not everyone will always love, appreciate, or
approve of who or what you are... and that's OK.
(They are entitled to their own
views and opinions.) And you learn the importance of
loving and championing yourself and in the process a
sense of new found confidence is born of
self-approval. You stop bitching and blaming other
people for the things they did to you (or didn't do
for you,) and you learn that the only thing you can
really count on is the unexpected. You learn that
people don't always say what they mean or mean
what they say and that not everyone will always be
there for you and that it's not always about you. So,
you learn to stand on your own and to take care of
yourself and in the process a sense of safety and
security is born of self-reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to
accept people as they are and to overlook their
shortcomings and human frailties and in the process a
sense of peace & contentment is born of forgiveness.
You realise that much of the way you view yourself and
the world around you, is as a result of all the
messages and opinions that have been ingrained into
your psyche.
You begin to sift through all the crap you've been fed
about how you should behave, how you should look, how
much you should weigh, what you should wear, where you
should shop, what you should drive, how and where you
should live, what you should do for a living, who you
should sleep with, who you should marry, what you
should expect of a marriage, the importance of having
and raising children, or what you owe your parents.
You learn to open up to new worlds and different
points of view. And you begin reassessing and
redefining who you are what you really stand for. You
learn the difference between wanting and needing and
you begin to discard the doctrines and values you've
outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin
with and in the process you learn to go with your
instincts.
You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive.
And that there is power and glory in creating and
contributing. You stop manoeuvring through life merely
as a "consumer" looking for your next fix. Your learn
that principles such as honesty and integrity are not
the outdated ideals of a by gone era but the mortar
that holds together the foundation upon which you must
build a life.
You learn that you don't know everything, that it's
not your job to save the world and that you can't
teach a pig to sing. You learn to distinguish between
guilt and responsibility and you learn the importance
of setting boundaries and of learning to say NO. You
learn that the only cross to bear is the one you
choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the
stake.
Then you learn about love: Romantic love and familiar
love. You learn how to love, how much to give in love,
when to stop giving and when to walk away. You learn
not to project your needs or your feelings onto a
relationship. You learn that you will not be more
beautiful, more intelligent, more loveable or
important because of the man or woman on your arm or
the child that bears your name. You learn to look at
relationships as they really are and not as you would
have them be. You stop trying to control people
situations and outcomes. You learn that just as people
grow and change so it is with love.
And you learn that you don't have the right to demand
love on your terms. And, you learn that alone does not
mean lonely. And you look in the mirror and come to
terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or
a perfect 10 and you stop trying to compete with the
image inside your head and agonising over how you
"stack up."
You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings
aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.
You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly
OK and you learn that it is your right to want things
and to ask for the things that you want and that
sometimes it is necessary to make demands. You come to
the realisation that you deserve to be treated with
love, kindness, sensitivity and respect and you decide
you won't settle for less. And you allow only the
hands of a lover who cherishes you to glorify you with
his or her touch... and in the process you internalise
the meaning of self-respect.
And you learn that your body really is your temple.
And you begin to care for it and treat it with
respect. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking
more water and taking more time to exercise. You learn
that fatigue diminishes the spirit and can create
doubt and fear. So you take more time to rest. And,
just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul.
So you take more time to laugh and to play.
You learn that for the most part, in life, you get
what you believe you deserve... and that much of life
truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You learn that
anything worth achieving is worth working for and that
wishing for something to happen is different than
working toward making it happen. More importantly, you
learn that in order to achieve success you need
direction, discipline and perseverance. You also learn
that no one can do it all alone and that it's OK to
risk asking for help.
You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is
the great robber baron of all time: FEAR itself. You
learn to step right into and through your fears,
because you know that whatever happens you can handle
it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to
live life on your terms.
And you learn to fight for your life and not to
squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.
You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't
always get what you think you deserve and that
sometimes "bad" things happen to unsuspecting, good
people. On these occasions you learn not to
personalise things. You learn that God isn't punishing
you or failing to answer your prayers. It's just life
happening.
And you learn to deal with evil in its most primal
state: the ego. You learn that negative feelings such
as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and
redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you
and poison the universe that surrounds you. You learn
to admit when you are wrong and to building bridges
instead of walls.
You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many
of the simple things we take for granted, things that
millions of people upon the earth can only dream
about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a
soft warm bed, a long hot shower.
Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself
by yourself and you make yourself a promise never to
betray yourself and never, ever to settle for less
than your heart's desire. And you hang a wind chime
outside your window so you can listen to the wind. And
you make a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting,
and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.
Finally, with courage in your heart, you take a deep
breath and you begin to design the life you want to
live as best as you can.
---Author Unknown
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if u r contented n satisfied...u will be happy
i have to agree with wat u ppl has said
it all depends on wat kind of life u want to lead
simple yet peaceful??its just how u perceive it
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Originally posted by reverend:
if u r contented n satisfied...u will be happy
i have to agree with wat u ppl has said
it all depends on wat kind of life u want to lead
simple yet peaceful??its just how u perceive it
Life has to be exciting, yet peaceful when it is supposed to be. There has to be some goal in life, be it family, work, aspirations 
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